Friday, 2 November 2018

How I Take Control of MY Life

I'm sure that if you're reading this, you are stuck in a place where you feel don't deserve to be in. A place you feel is below your capabilities but because of your unfortunate circumstances, you have found yourself stuck there. My life constantly revolves around the same problem. I can't help but find myself in the same predicament. I have many dreams and aspirations and even though I have conquered some, I am hung up about the dreams I haven't made into reality yet. 
If nobody has told this yet, let me be the first to tell you that feeling this way is ok. It's natural for humans to be "not enough" because once we obtain what we are chasing after, we move on to the next. As someone who has a more impatient personality, I want things to be done fast. As I have grown and matured I have come to the conclusion that some things can be done in a short span of time and some things can't. And there are things other people can do faster than you that you can't. What makes us feel bad isn't that we can't finish the task, but rather seeing someone else do it faster and better than us. Competition isn't the enemy. It's how we take it. As I have matured into young adulthood, I realized that I can no longer sulk, cry, and throw tantrums when things don't go my way. Sure, venting and ranting to our friends, family, and in my case, you, my readers are the adult equivalent to throwing tantrums but once you've spewed all your worries and frustrations out into listening ears and understanding hearts it's you that have to figure out a solution. When I find that my life is crumbling down around me or when I feel like I feel a bit stressed and anxious I do these three things:

1. Block out all distractions
This means night-moding my phone, logging off all social media (Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube), and temporarily storing my phone out of my sight. In my opinion YouTube and Instagram are the most mentally draining social media platforms for me. 

2. Write down 1 challenge I want to complete by the end of the day
It's usually between writing a blog post, or to writing one original content for YouTube. I just want to have it done. It doesn't have to be perfect because I'll go in to edit everything the next day. But it can't be half-assed. When I'm feeling like my mind can't calm down, I feel that having one task completed to the best of my abilities is what I find most rewarding.  

3. Exercise 
Whether it's 50 air squats, running 5 miles on a treadmill, or going to spin class, I try to have let my mind take a rest and instead work out my body. Even a stroll through my neighbourhood does the trick. I have found that walking my dog at night to be very therapeutic. The key to exercising when you have a billion things weighing on your mind is to clear you mind from your distractions. It's a mental challenge and it's not something you can do easily. It takes practice and self-discipline. Every time I find my mind slipping into thinking about all the things that are still waiting for me at home I take a deep breath in through the mouth and out through the mouth. I then shift my focus to what I am doing in the moment. If I am climbing the stairmaster with my headphones on, I switch the current to Kanye West's "Stronger" and focus on the beats. If I am cycling with a class full of people I turn my attention to my instructor. 


I hope these tips can help you as they've helped me. It's important to take care of your mental health. You don't have to do everything all at once. I have found that one change that you can continue is much better than making 20 changes that you can't keep. 

Until next time!
Steph

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